Robert Dilts – The Secret to Authentic Success is Down to These Two Things..
Fulfilment and success is something that we have all felt at some point in our life. It comes from a place deep within our being, but many of us feel its absence, perhaps almost too frequently. And as a result we measure our success by how much money we have in the bank, our status and authority, how people speak to us or address us at work. Although these things can form part of feeling successful, imagine if you had an abundance of material things but no one to share them with? Imagine you had considerable prosperity but spent your life in relentless conflict with other people? Imagine having a high paid job but no social life or family around to love and share it with?
At a recent Wingwave Conference in Germany, we had the very fortunate pleasure of meeting Robert Dilts (famous in the area of NLP) who represented as our keynote speaker for the weekend. Robert took us on a journey to share his vision of what it really means to be successful. Having modelled the likes of Steve Jobs, Bill Gates and other successful entrepreneurs during his triumphant years, it was interesting to hear that there are still many people in the world who have reached extreme wealth and status but still do not feel authentically successful – all because they haven’t experienced these two vital things….
People who are authentically successful take time on a daily basis to appreciate the things that drove them to having feelings of success. They make time for gratitude for the simple things in life such as the comfort of a bed, a smile that someone gave them during the day, and most importantly the people who were involved in the journey that took them to their place of success. The appreciation of people and celebration of the journey is just as important as the destination because as a collective we naturally bounce and enhance each other’s potential, in particular this happens at an unconscious level and into the cells of our body. Generosity and sharing of rewards and your time and money or donating to charity helps you to feel good. All are important segments to this vital ingredient of feeling and achieving true success and in addition excellent health and wellbeing.
We have all come across or met someone who is so irrevocably stingy, unable to give away their time or share their feelings or even their wealth. But next time you come across this ask the question; are they really happy, do they really feel successful and are they living their passion and going to bed at night abundantly grateful for all that they have? Very likely they feel emptiness or that something is missing, and this feeling may be very familiar to you to right now.
So what is your own personal success indicator? Tune in and notice what it feels like when you give up your time for someone, or take an opportunity to share something you have. When you can be grateful for even the smallest things, it triggers many feel-good neurons which transmit through your body, into your cells so you feel happier and successful as a result. Some people think that gratitude is fluffy and clichéd but it has been proven countless times that the impact of these emotions are crucial to our own sense of success and wellbeing, and for that reason, I wanted to share this gentle reminder.